Monthly Archive: November 2018

How to Repair a Relationship After Cheating

So, you had some rough months which ended up with you losing your mind one night and cheating. Of course that you immediately realized that this was the biggest mistake of your life and regretted it but what do you do to save your relationship? You have been unfaithful and you have betrayed your partner but you’re not the only one. In fact, recent studies show that one in five Americans who are in a monogamous relationship have cheated at least once. This doesn’t mean that all those relationships ended the day after; most of them have been successfully repaired and we’ll teach you how to do that as well. There is such a thing as healthy relationship after cheating and here’s how to obtain that.

1. Don’t assume that everything is over and that your relationship is doomed. As soon as your partner finds out about the cheating, regardless of how that happens, don’t assume that everything is over. Take responsibility, recognize your fault and assume that continuing the relationship is equally possible with putting an end to it.

2. Acknowledge that you have a problem and that you are the one who caused it. You are the one who messed up and you need to accept the healing process, regardless of how long it takes. Apologize for having hurt your partner and see what it is that you need to do in order to begin the healing process.

3. Figure out the real reason of the cheating. You will probably be surprised to find out that infidelity is rarely the effect of a momentary lapse in judgement or the result of a heated attraction to somebody else. Maybe you’ve been feeling lonely in your relationship lately, maybe there is something lacking around the intimate life or maybe you’re feeling that you are not receiving back the way that you are giving?

4. Don’t talk only about the infidelity. Of course that your partner will want to hear all the details, from where and when it happened to what happened afterwards. However, you should only talk about it 15 minutes a day and then move on. Otherwise, you will both find yourselves in a toxic atmosphere that will do you a lot of harm. Talk less or talk only accompanied by a psychologist or a couples’ therapist.

5. Accept the fact that your partner needs time to heal. It might take even one year for this to happen and you need to be patient and prove that he or she can trust you again. It will be difficult, you will have moments when you’ll feel that you cannot do it anymore but if you love each other then it is worth it.

Difficult times stand ahead but as long as you have determination, patience and enough love to save the relationship you are in, then you have to fight. Fight for your loved one and for your future together, as all is not lost yet. As long as you believe and understand this, everything will be sorted out.

How to Make a Good Relationship Great

Are you finally involved in a relationship that you really care about but you can only describe it as ‘’good’’, not as great? Is there something keeping you from taking the next step and getting married and you want to get that sorted out as you really feel that this relationship is worth the effort? Luckily, we have some tips and tricks which will help you make a good relationship great, so please check out the list below and put these into practice. You will see that they really work and that it’s not as complicated as you might think it is. Here they are.

  • Remember to do things that you used to do in your first year together. The first year of a relationship is also the most beautiful one; it is the year during which you have all sorts of experiences for the first time and a year which helps you discover each other. It is the year when you have a lot of fun together and if you want to transform a good relationship in a great one, then we strongly recommend you to remake that year.
  • Learn to understand your partner; be the expert on your partner. You should pay attention to what your emotional and physical needs of your partner are. Learn what makes him or her feel excited and what it is that he or she resonates with. I know for sure that you will be thrilled with the results of getting to know your partner to a high degree.
  • Learn to better communicate at the end of the day. Everybody asks ‘’How was your day?” which is usually answered with ‘’Fine. Yours?’’. You can replace this old, boring question with ‘’What was challenging today’’ or ‘’What was your highlight for today?’’. These are more thoughtful and will lead to more meaningful conversations.
  • Don’t forget to keep it sexy! Talk about what you guys find as ‘’sexy’’ and do that. Is it sexy to get dressed in a certain way in the bedroom? Do that! Is it sexy to do the housework? Well, also do that!
  • Spend your time together in a creative way. Try new things more often, as these will give you new experiences and thrills.
  • Take a vacation in two every year. Even though you have kids, this doesn’t mean that you can forget about vacations in two. Find someone to live the kids with, someone who is trustworthy, so you can actually relax and sit back while on vacation and go somewhere, just the two of you.
  • Try to understand your partner even though this means that you don’t agree with their feelings/ ideas/ thoughts.

Follow these tips and tricks and I can assure you of the fact that it is going to take your relationship to the next level; your relationship will simply become great from being just good and I know that you will be pleased with the results. You just have to be open to doing new things or doing things a bit differently.